How to Use a dildo for sex toy beginners

Dildos are one of the most popular and versatile sex toys on the market. Whether you’re new to adult toys or looking to spice up your solo or partnered play, understanding how to use it safely and effectively is essential. In this guide, we’ll cover everything from what a dildo is to sex toy tips that enhance pleasure.

What is a Dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy designed for penetration, available in a variety of shapes, sizes, and materials. Unlike vibrators, most dildos don’t vibrate, making them ideal for users who enjoy realistic sensations or prefer a slower, controlled experience. Dildos can be used vaginally or anally and come in materials such as silicone, glass, or even metal.

When considering cost, prices can range from R200 to R2,000, depending on material, size, and brand. Beginners might want to start with a smaller, flexible silicone dildo, while more experienced users may prefer realistic or double-ended designs. Always consider your comfort level and personal preference when selecting your toy.

Tips on Use

Lube is Key

One of the most important sex toy tips is to use adequate lubrication. Silicone lube or water-based lubes reduce friction, making penetration smoother and more pleasurable. Avoid using silicone lube with silicone toys, as this can damage the material. Always apply a generous amount before and during use.

Experiment with Angles and Positions

The use effectively often comes down to experimentation. Try different angles, positions, and depths to find what feels best for you. For vaginal play, lying on your back or side can be comfortable, while for anal play, being on all fours or side-lying often works well. Take your time and listen to your body.

Hygiene and Safety

Maintaining cleanliness is crucial. Wash your toy before and after each use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. If sharing with a partner, consider using a condom to prevent infections. Proper storage in a clean, dry place ensures your dildo remains in good condition for long-term use.

Bonus Tip: Incorporate Into Partner Play

Sex toys aren’t just for solo play—they can enhance intimacy with a partner. Use them during foreplay, oral play, or alongside other toys to increase excitement. Communication is key to ensure both partners are comfortable and enjoying the experience.

Using these 6 popular tips, anyone can explore different types of play safely, confidently, and pleasurably. Whether you’re curious about price or where you can buy one, starting with the right guidance ensures your experience is both fun and safe.

Where Can I Buy a Dildo?

You can buy a quality toy at Luvland’s physical stores or our online sex shop. Online shopping offers discretion and a wider variety of choices. When purchasing, ensure the retailer provides high-quality, body-safe products. Popular South African online stores like Luvland.

Choosing the Right Toy

Whether you want to experiment alone or with your partner, finding the most appropriate sex toy for you is key.

Consider Experience Level

• • Beginners: Opt for a smaller, flexible dildo made of body-safe silicone. Slim designs are less intimidating and easier to control.
  • Experienced Users: Explore larger sizes, realistic textures, or specialized shapes like double-ended or curved dildos for G-spot or prostate stimulation.

• • Silicone: Safe, flexible, easy to clean, hypoallergenic.
  • Glass or Metal: Rigid, smooth, great for temperature play. Can be heavier, offering a different sensation.
  • Soft PVC or Jelly: Affordable but less durable; check for phthalate-free products.

• • Curved toys target internal pleasure points like the G-spot or prostate.
  • Straight toys provide classic penetration experience.
  • Textured toys add extra stimulation if desired.

• • Start small and gradually increase size based on comfort and preference.
  • Remember: it’s about pleasure, not size—too large can cause discomfort or injury.

• • Beginners may prefer non-vibrating dildos for control.
  • Vibrating options add intensity and variety, especially for solo play.

Choosing the Right  Toy for Couples

• • Double-ended toys allow both partners to use the toy simultaneously.
  • Couples may enjoy strap-on compatible for pegging or role reversal play.

• • Choose toys with slight curves or adjustable sizes to accommodate both partners comfortably.
  • Silicone or flexible materials make positions easier to experiment with.

• • Discuss comfort, boundaries, and preferred sensations before use.
  • Start slow and adjust based on feedback from each partner.

• • Some toys include suction cups for hands-free play.
  • Vibrating models can enhance shared pleasure, allowing both partners to enjoy stimulation simultaneously.

• • Always use a condom if sharing a dildo between partners to prevent infections.
  • Wash thoroughly before and after use, and consider having separate toys for each partner if desired.

Key Takeaway: Choosing the right toy is all about comfort, experience, and shared enjoyment. For individuals, focus on size, material, and personal preference. For couples, prioritise communication, versatility, and safety to make the experience pleasurable for both.

Final Thoughts

Exploring dildos can be a fun, safe, and highly pleasurable experience when you follow these tips. By using proper lubrication, experimenting with positions, and prioritising hygiene, you can enjoy every moment—whether solo or with a partner. Remember, learning how to use it properly is all about discovering what feels best for you, so take your time, be curious, and have fun.

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