Threesome? meet the ultimate Vibrator

Thinking about adding a vibrator to your next threesome?

Whether you’re curious about your first three-way or want to take your experiences to the next level, the right adult toy can make all the difference. A threesome is all about balancing pleasure, connection, and fun between three people, and a well-chosen vibrator helps ensure no one feels left out.

In this guide, we’ll break down why these specific adult toys are the ultimate wingman (or wingwoman!) in threesomes, which toys work best, and expert tips for getting the most out of your playtime.

Adding adult toys to your sexual experience can add more excitement to the mix, especially in a threesome – some would even say game-changing. Here’s why:

    • Keeps everyone involved: While two people may be focused on penetration, a vibrator ensures the third partner stays engaged with equal pleasure.
    • Hands-free pleasure: Some vibrators are designed to stay in place, freeing up hands for other types of stimulation.
    • Explores new sensations: Vibrators can add intensity to oral sex, anal play, or during shifting positions, creating a multi-sensory experience.
    • Balances energy levels: Not everyone has the same stamina. Vibrators can pick up the slack when someone needs a break, without killing the mood.
Expert tip: Sex therapist Rachel Albright suggests incorporating a vibrator early on in group play. “It’s a neutral tool that can help everyone warm up and feel connected. It’s also great for partners who might feel shy or unsure about what to do with a third person involved.”

How to Introduce an Adult Toy into a Threesome

Introducing a vibrator to a threesome

Bringing a vibrating adult toy into a threesome should feel natural and exciting, not awkward. Here are some ways to make the introduction seamless: 

    • Talk about it first: Before you get naked, bring up the idea of using a vibrator. Most people who are open to the idea won’t hesitate to try. However, not all will agree. Have a quick conversation to ensure everyone is comfortable.
    • Show, don’t tell: Start with external use, like running a vibrator along someone’s back or thighs. It’s a sensual, non-intimidating way to introduce it into play.
    • Rotate roles: Let each person take turns controlling the toy. This adds an interactive and playful dynamic, which can make everyone feel included.
    • Use lubricants: Always use a high-quality, toy-safe lubricant. Vibrations feel so much better when paired with a good lube.

sex Toys We Recommend

When it comes to a threesome-friendly sex toys, versatility and comfort are key. Here’s one vibrator that could make things very interesting, no matter the threesome set up:

Howells Double Rider 

Looking to spice up your threesome experience? The Double Rider Pink by howells is everything you need to intensify shared pleasure and keep everyone satisfied—hands-free.

This strapless strap-on vibrator is designed for deep, intimate connection between partners. Whether you're indulging in a ménage à trois or simply exploring new ways to connect with your lover(s), the Double Rider delivers powerful, multi-point stimulation.

What Makes it Perfect?

    • Dual stimulation for both the wearer and the receiver – The vaginal plug stays securely in place thanks to its expertly contoured design, leaving your hands free to explore and please your third partner.
    • Clitoral, G-spot & anal stimulation – The toy doesn’t stop at penetration. Its clever shape ensures all the right spots are being teased—inside and out.
    • 10 intense vibration modes – Easily controlled by a button in the centre, you can cycle through vibes that suit every mood—from a slow build-up to a pulse-pounding finish.
    • Perfect sizing for pleasure without discomfort: Vaginal plug: 8.2 cm long x 3.5 cm diameter, penetrative end: 14.3 cm long x 3.9 cm diameter.
    • Made from silky, body-safe silicone – Soft, smooth and oh-so-luxurious on the skin.
    • USB rechargeable – No batteries needed, just charge up and go whenever the mood strikes.
Why you'll love it: In a threesome, balance is everything—and the Double Rider gives everyone a reason to moan. It’s a toy that adapts to your desires, whether you’re taking turns, double-penetrating, or exploring power dynamics. It's non-gendered, non-restrictive, and 100% designed for shared pleasure.

Expert Tips on How to Use a Vibrator in Threesomes

We’ve found a few sex coaches and toy experts advice on how to make your adult toy the star of a threesome:

    • Layer sensations: “Use the vibrator alongside fingers, oral, or penetration,” says sex educator, Dr. Jess O’Reilly. “The combination of touch and vibration can intensify pleasure for all involved.
    • Keep things inclusive: Don’t forget the third partner. “The key to a successful threesome is balance,” says one adult toy reviewer. “Rotate who’s being stimulated and let everyone interact with the toy, even if it’s just controlling the settings.” 
    • Start slow: High speed vibrations might be too intense at first. Start on the lowest setting and gradually increase. This allows everyone to adjust and find their sweet spot.
    • Don’t limit the vibrator to one partner: This toy isn’t just for women. Use them on men too – especially around the perineum or during oral sex for added stimulation.

sex toy Positions for a threesome

If you’re not sure where to start, try these positions that work well with your chosen toy:
    1. The Clitoral Boost: One partner receives penetration while the third person uses a vibrator on the clitoris or nipples.
    2. The Oral-Vibe Sandwich: One partner performs oral while the other teases with a wand or wand vibrator.
    3. Vibrator Relay: Take turns controlling and teasing with the toy while switching positions.

Safety & Hygiene Tips

    • Clean before and after use: Wash your vibrator thoroughly with a toy-safe cleaner or warm soapy water.
    • Use condoms or insertable toys: This is especially important if switching between partners.
    • Know the material: Silicone toys are body-safe and easy to clean, while cheaper materials may not be.

Should You use Adult Toys during a Threesome?

Whether you’re exploring your first threesome or looking to spice up an exciting fantasy, the right toy can completely transform the experience. From hands-free to versatile wands, these adult toys are designed to bring everyone new sensations.

Want to try the top picks for yourself? Explore our full range of vibrators right here at Luvland. As for choosing the right lube, here’s a few ways you can use lube for better sex.