The Ultimate Guide: Strap-On Dildo Tips for Beginners
If you’ve watched And Just Like That– the sequel to Sex and the City – then you might know the couple we’re talking about. In one episode, Miranda Hobbs begins a new chapter with girlfriend, Che. Despite facing harsh critics over her new relationship, sex didn’t seem to be an issue for Miranda. It wasn’t until a few episodes later that she struggled to figure out how to wear the strap-on (although, it looked more like she was rehearsing for a cirque du soleil act than putting on her strap-on dildo).
Despite the on-screen drama and fictional characters, reality offers a much clearer picture of how a strap-on dildo actually works. Luckily, you don’t have to be Miranda in the bedroom– confidence comes with a bit of practice. With the right gear, you'll feel just as great as your partner!
Now, if you’re into pegging, the same rules apply. Everything in this guide will work in your favour so you can master the arts of the strap-on dildo.
How to Use a Strap-on and adult toys in 7 Easy Ways
To help with your strap-on confidence, we’ve put together 7 simple techniques and tips:
- Come prepared: Find the right type of strap-on for your needs. That way, you don’t have to do the heavy lifting. You can explore some of our beginner-friendly options here.
To find the right lube for your adult toy, check out our comprehensive lube guide.
- Wear your strap-on regularly beforehand: When using any adult toy, practice builds confidence. Why wait until the moment you need it to work? Get familiar with your new strap-on by wearing it around the house and get comfortable with how it feels. By the time you use it with your partner, you’ll feel less awkward and more confident.
- Watch porn as a couple (yes, ones with strap-ons): Watching amateur adult films is a great place to start. If it’s your first time using a strap-on dildo, you’ll pick up on beginner-friendly techniques without hassle. Watching others will give you a better sense of the movements and positions.
- Experiment with strap-friendly positions: When it comes to sex positions, don’t try to master the craziest ones right away. Stick to the basics that you’re both comfortable with (like riding your partner, missionary, or doggy style). As you go, you can play it by ear and see what works best.
- Put your thrusting skills to the test: It might feel a little weird at first, but there’s no harm in going “solo” with your new gear. Some users even say that it helps them learn about which hip movements and grinding motions feel right in ways that go beyond penetration. So, grab a pillow (or two) or try practicing with a female sex doll.
- Communicate with your partner: Check in with your partner and ask how they’re feeling. Make sure they’re comfortable, and encourage them to share feedback on what feels good (and what doesn’t). Penetration shouldn’t be painful, though it can feel uncomfortable if you’re not in sync.
- Explore different strap-on types: There’s a wide variety of harnesses out there - from vibrating accessories and briefs to basic dildo strap-ons. Make sure to do your research first.
Here’s what we recommend: Luvland’s strap-on and harness collection.
How to Choose The Right Strap-On Dildo
Among the wide array of adult toys, sex therapists agree that choosing the right strap-on dildo is not just about size. There’s a lot of power play involved - from anal and BDSM to vaginal penetration.
Your best bet is to find one that meets your personal sex style.
In fact, some strap-ons and harnesses come with their own dildo. While it might seem like the easier option, it’s worth considering a few key factors: adjustability, whether you prefer vibrating or non-vibrating models, and if you’d like a universal harness that works with different attachments.
Where Can I Buy a Dildo?
Buying a dildo is no longer a trek or secret mission. These days, you’re just a click away on your smartphone. Luvland’s dildo collection includes everything from classic strap-ons to all kinds of dildos.
Dildos, Adult toys & then some
Like most things in life, mastering a strap-on takes time, curiosity, and a willingness to explore. Whether you’re experimenting for the first time or levelling up your play, communication and comfort will always be priority in the bedroom.
Start slow, laugh through the awkward moments, and enjoy the journey of discovering new ways to connect with your partner. And when you’re ready to upgrade your adult toy collection, Luvland has everything you need to turn confidence into pure pleasure.
