A Beginner’s Guide: Top 7 Gay Sex Toys to take home

When it comes to sex, pleasure shouldn’t be complicated, and for gay men in South Africa, the sex toy market has never been more exciting, diverse, or inclusive. Whether you’re a single guy exploring your body, part of a long-term gay couple looking to deepen intimacy, or new to understanding how to have gay sex, finding the right sex toys can completely change your sex life.

This guide breaks down the best sex toys for South African men, how to use them safely, and what experts say about adding toys to your routine.

How to Choose Gay Sex Toys

Pleasure products designed for gay men aren’t just about stronger orgasms (though they do that very well). They also:

• • Help couples feel more connected.
  • Support exploration and sexual confidence.
  • Make anal sex safer and more pleasurable.
  • Provide solo satisfaction when you’re not with a partner.
  • Assist in boosting mental health.

Pretty good reasons to add a toy or two, right?

1. Prostate Massagers – A Must-Have 

If there’s one sex toy every gay man should try at least once, it’s a prostate massager. The prostate, often called the “male G-spot”, can produce some of the most intense orgasms you’ll ever experience.

What experts say

According to The Journal of Sexual Medicine, prostate stimulation can “increase orgasm intensity and lead to full-body pleasure.”

Why men love them

• • Deep, pulsing P-spot stimulation.
  • Great for solo or partnered play.
  • Enhances anal penetration or prep.

A curved prostate toy with a firm internal arm and a stimulating base. Vibrating models add even more intensity.

2. Anal Plugs – Perfect for Prep and Pleasure

Anal plugs are a staple for gay sex because they help relax the muscles, increase sensitivity, and make penetration (with a partner or dildo) smoother and more comfortable.

Ideal for

• • Beginners learning how to have gay sex.
  • Couples who want to “warm up” before penetration.
  • Men exploring solo anal pleasure.

Sexual wellness educator Zoë Ligon calls butt plugs “one of the easiest, safest, and most enjoyable ways to ease into anal play.”

Tips for South Africans new to anal toys

• • Start small.
  • Always use lots of lube.
  • Choose a plug with a wide base to prevent mishaps.

3. Dildos & Realistic Toys – Classic, Versatile, and Pleasurable

Dildos are a favourite for many gay couples and single men because they’re simple but effective. Whether you prefer realistic silicone or colourful fantasy designs, you’ll always find a style that hits the spot.

Why dildos are great

• • Perfect for practising penetration.
  • Can be used with partners or alone.
  • Ideal for exploring depth, angles, and pressure.

Look for 100% medical-grade silicone — it’s hygienic, longer lasting, and feels amazing.

4. Vibrating Cock Rings – For Next-Level Couple Play

Cock rings aren’t just for straight couples. They work beautifully for gay sex, especially when paired with oral, rimming, or penetration.

Why gay couples love them

Cock rings improve blood flow and can help men maintain firmness during longer play sessions. They also support and help with: 

• • Stronger erections.
  • Longer-lasting sessions.
  • Shared vibration during penetration.

5. Couples’ Toys – Designed for Two Men

Great options

• • Double-ended strokers.
  • Vibrating plugs controlled by a partner.
  • Harness sets for pegging-style play.
  • Dual-penetration toys.

Relationship therapist Ian Kerner says that using toys together “helps partners create new shared experiences that improve intimacy and trust.”

6. Penis Sleeves – Perfect for Solo or Mutual Play

Penis sleeves and strokers are brilliant for solo play, but they’re also super fun to use in couples’ sessions — think side-by-side masturbation, using a sleeve on your partner, or adding it between rounds of anal play.

Why men love them

• • Great for edging.
  • Enhances sensitivity.
  • Ideal for men who want variety in solo play.

7. Essentials: The Right Lube for Gay Sex

Best lubes for gay sex

• • Water-based lube: safe for all sex toys, easy to clean, but needs frequent reapplication.
  • Silicone lube: incredible glide, long-lasting, and perfect for anal (but avoid using it with silicone toys).
  • Hybrid lube: best of both worlds.

the Best sex Toys for men

When shopping for sex toys in South Africa, keep these 5 tips in mind:

• Buy quality: Poor-quality toys can irritate the skin or break — always choose body-safe silicone.
• Think about your experience level: Beginners should start small and smooth. More advanced users can explore bigger toys, prostate vibrators, or textured dildos.
• Shop discreetly: Most SA stores offer discreet packaging and nationwide delivery — no awkward courier moments.
•  Prioritise safety: No toy should ever hurt. Pain is a signal to stop.
• Talk openly with your partner: Communication makes the experience more intimate and fun.
• Explore, Experiment, Enjoy

Gay sex toys offer endless opportunities to explore your pleasure, deepen your connection with your partner, and understand your body in new ways. Whether you’re learning how to use gay sex toys, experimenting with lube, or shopping for couples’ adult toys to spice up your sex life, there is something out there for every man and every relationship.

South African gay couples now have access to world-class products — and the best part? Pleasure is personal, customizable, and always evolving.

Your only job is to explore and enjoy.